Having a boyfriend can be a goodexperience and a lot of fun, but it caneasily turn into an emotional wreck ifhe starts acting weird. He might haveproblems trusting or he might justneed some distance. But he alsomight be cheating on you. Luckily, there are ways to know if yourboyfriend is cheating on you,
One of the changes men make is, Heâ€™s suddenly unavailable.Some signs of shifty behavior are quite obvious. Maybe your partner said heâ€™d be near his phone and then runs out of battery, or perhaps heâ€™s told you heâ€™s at work and his flustered colleague tells you heâ€™s just popped out for a sandwich. Follow yourinstincts if thereâ€™s something going on,so donâ€™t become a doormat â€“confront him.
Youâ€™re not having sex. Treat lack of boudoir action as a big, flashing warning that something’s not right. Itâ€™s a major sign that heâ€™s having sex elsewhere. Even if he is not, itâ€™s something you need to sort out. Tell him you need tosee a sex therapist. That will scare most men! Have an honest discussion about whatâ€™s going on, and how you can make time for a romantic evening and sex.â€
Heâ€™s behaving suspiciously on the phone.So your boyfriendâ€™s walking out of the room to take calls, and has suddenly started to lock his phone? Deal with it directly. I know itâ€™s common to look through a manâ€™s phone rather than raise the issue, but try to avoid doing it. Rather than become suspicious and untrustworthy like him, sit him down and ask whatâ€™s going on. When he answers, concentrate not on what heâ€™s saying, but how he says it. Tell-tale signs include fidgety body language and hesitation.
Heâ€™s a green-eyed monster.Is your boyfriend suddenly getting well jell and questioning what youâ€™re up to? If a man becomes suspicious of your behaviour and accuses you of cheating, he could be projecting his lack of trustworthiness onto you. Donâ€™t stand for it, as it can damage your self -image. Tell him you know the game heâ€™s playing, and you refuse to play it too!
Heâ€™s met new mates.Of course, not all new friends spell danger. But, as the Dating Doctor, Peter Spalton, explains, itâ€™s how much he tells you about them that counts.Watch how he talks about them â€“ if heâ€™s being furtive and starts going out with someone you donâ€™t know much about, and donâ€™t get introduced to, it could spell trouble.
The opportunity is there.Itâ€™s not actually that easy to cheat. You need the window of opportunity. So if heâ€™s meeting someone for sex, itâ€™s easier if he can stay out overnight. But if heâ€™s going out for dinner with another woman, he can tell you itâ€™s a night out with the boys. Watch for changes in his behaviour.
He hides his post.Cheating costs money, whether itâ€™s paying for dinner or a night in a hotel. And with all the extra spending comes evidence that thereâ€™s something going on. A cheater might hide his credit card bill, or stop having his calls itemized on his phone bill. But if you get the chance to look at the evidence, youâ€™ll be able to tell exactly what kind of affair is going on â€“ and how serious it is.
Neither of you are happy.The motivation to cheat comes if youâ€™re not satisfied with your relationship. That could mean both of you. If you really think your boyfriend is cheating, ask yourself if youâ€™re really happy anyway? One partner cheating means thereâ€™s something wrong, and if you want to save it you both need to be honest and fix it.
He explains too much.Often a cheater will give an explanation for something and go into a lot of detail to try and convince you.It may even sound as if itâ€™s been rehearsed â€“ probably because it has! Think carefully before you just let his lies go without questioning them as it takes two to lie: one person to tell thelie, the other to accept it.
Your gut instinct tells you heâ€™s a cheater. Everyone has a sixth sense. Donâ€™t ignore it. People who are being cheated on nearly always know in their heart of hearts whatâ€™s going on, but just didnâ€™t want to face it. So how do you tap into your sixth sense? Think of a time, like at the end of a yoga class, when youâ€™re really relaxed, empty your mind and get into that state. Now ask yourselfÂ Â â€˜Is he cheating on me?â€™ Take the first answer that springs to mind.â€ But what if the answerâ€™s yes? Move on.
Those who get cheated on are trusting, sometimes naÃ¯ve and open to love, so although you feel devastated know you will find the right guy in the end.